The 4 Biggest Sleep Training Myths and What’s Actually True

You know those nights when you’re rocking your baby for the fifth time, your arm’s gone numb, and you’re Googling “Is sleep training cruel?” with one hand while holding a bottle in the other?

If that’s you, you're not alone.

Every week, I talk to exhausted parents who want their babies to sleep better but are terrified of doing something “wrong.” They’ve heard horror stories from the internet, judgment from friends, and maybe even guilt from family.

But here’s the truth: most of what you’ve heard about sleep training is just plain wrong.

Let’s bust some of the biggest myths once and for all 👇

Myth #1: You Have to Leave Your Baby Alone to Cry It Out

This one probably makes every parent’s heart sink. The idea of your baby crying alone? No thank you.

But here’s what I want you to know: sleep training is not about abandoning your child.

You never have to leave your baby’s side if you don’t want to. There’s an entire spectrum of gentle, responsive methods where your calm presence helps your baby feel safe while learning to fall asleep.

Many of the families I work with choose methods where parents sit right beside their baby, offering reassurance and comfort through every step. The goal is not to ignore  it’s to teach.

If you want to learn more about different sleep training methods, you’ll love my post: What Is the Best Sleep Training Method?

Myth #2: Your Baby Has to Sleep in a Separate Room

Nope, not true.
Your baby can learn to sleep independently even while sharing your room.

Room-sharing actually works beautifully for families who want to maintain closeness. You can sleep on your bed while your baby rests comfortably (and safely!) in their crib.

In fact, this setup often helps parents sleep better too, with fewer midnight transfers, more peace of mind.

If you’re wondering how to make that work in real life, check out: How to Sleep Train When Baby Shares a Room

Myth #3: You Have to Stop Feeding at Night

Let’s get this straight  sleep training does not mean night weaning.

You can absolutely continue to feed your baby at night if it’s age-appropriate or necessary for their growth. Many babies under 1 still need one or two feeds, especially if they’re smaller, have oral ties, or haven’t started solids yet.

When I work with breastfeeding moms, I often recommend keeping one night feed to maintain supply  so your sleep goals and your feeding goals can work together, not against each other.

Curious to know more? Read: Can Sleep Training Affect Breastfeeding?

Myth #4: Sleep Training Will Damage Attachment

This one always breaks my heart  because it’s rooted in fear, not fact.

Your baby will always communicate their real needs. If they’re hungry, in pain, cold, or uncomfortable  you’ll know. Sleep training doesn’t stop babies from asking for help; it simply helps them not cry out for comfort during normal sleep cycle transitions.

And that’s the whole point: a well-rested baby is a happier, more regulated baby.

(Oh, and fun fact  this myth came from misinterpreted research on Romanian orphanages where children were neglected for months. That’s not even remotely comparable to a loved baby in a nurturing home.)

If attachment worries are what’s holding you back, you’ll find this comforting: Will Sleep Training Affect Attachment?

A Note from a Fellow Mom

As a mum of a sleep-trained baby (and now toddler), I can tell you this with confidence  she’s happy, healthy, thriving, and incredibly attached.

You don’t have to sacrifice your sleep or your sanity to be a good parent. You can be responsive, loving, and still teach your baby to sleep well.

It’s not about “training”  it’s about trust, consistency, and confidence.

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